Couples who are in conflict often find themselves blaming one another for the problems they are facing. I have another appointment in March with another doctor in the same practice and will ask her about my lining and if everything is ok now. I last bled in December and FSH test came out at 76. Glad to hear back from you. Menopause sucks. Good for a few weeks and it would come back for a week +. i also get alot of left rib pain - and over the last couple of years it's radiated to my back as well. I've had all scans bloods done it goes on! Although i hate that other women are suffering, at least i know im not imagining these issues. So weird. 2016;35(2):180-205. doi:10.1177/0261927X15583114. the worst feeling ever. It feels as im constantly running to the bathroom even at home and not much comes out. ", "I feel sad when it seems like my feelings are not taken seriously.". Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. But be reassured you really are ok. Hormones effect every part of our body and it's normal. God bless . I started having stabbing (like almost electric shock pains) just above my pelvis bone. However, regularly feeling misunderstood can be a sign of a need to work on communication skills. Just let me know if you have any questions. Mine is like you said with the upper stomach. I hear you. Then COVID. When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! I had lots of tests all came back negative. I have lists and lists of symptoms , just wondering what sill be next you are not alone , keep your faith . are you drinking plenty of water? Now awful riots and my niece is a police officer in Milwaukee and the things she tells and sends me are down right frightening so I think with all I am sure the stress is not helping. I was also of the opinion that I will die home alone and no one will find me! I feel your pain, you have my sympathy and hope that by telling my tale, you know that there are other women out there going through the same thing. Just know you are not alone, people will think we are losing it. How are you doing darlin. I have been burping more than normal. Hi Sherricl & Ukkiwibird (and all you lovely ladies out there)!!! How are you doing? no e nergy and sickly feeling all over, i suffer with the panic attacks that wake me also. I cant quite put my finger on all the unwellness i feel, but have a doctor cousin who assures me that what i feel is valid even if doctors dont quite understand it. im desperately searching for a good dr that specializes in perimenopause - menopause. I am so thankful to know i am not alone. How are you doing present day? I am always telling my husband i don't want to be alone. What a difference a pronoun makes: i/we versus you/me and worried couples perceptions of their interaction quality. All the best x. All lab test perfect once i rule out no heart issues from cardiologist as already have been been by my dr but i have to be certain. Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience. The idea of "I statements" was introduced during the 1960s by psychologist Thomas Gordon as a way to help children learn to connect emotions with behaviors during play therapy. As always, life is full of complexities, and there's never a "right time" to do menopause. Afraid that my insurance would deny the payment of the colonoscopy after I had it done (no prior authorization needed and I am not 50 or older), I decided to wait my symptoms out and sure enough, they have improved. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. It took a while to fall asleep but this morning I wake up and its not as bad, not sure if it's anxiety causing this. I honestly didn't see it coming. One common pitfall when using "I feel' statements is to use them as a way to express a judgment or assign blame to the other person. I am so sorry I just seen this. Rocking sensation, like I'm swaying. Your self worth, self esteem, self confidence and all that other good 'self' stuff is gone right out the window. I get rib pain, ache in my left side, always the left for me, really painful at times then goesI put it down to trapped gas, which at first I didn't believe as it was so sore, I thought it must be something more serious, but its been going on for so long now and I have had various testsI have had polyps, but they said that shouldn't cause the pain, they were detected when I started bleeding slightly after not having a period for over a year. VERY scary. Read our editorial policy. Not quite dizziness, more like I'm on a boat. ", "I feel worried when I don't know whether you made it home safely. 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My stomach has been the worst acid reflux, bloating and major heartburn had an endoscopy too. i have been post menopause since 2015. I am going to get a second opinion from another doctor in the practice. Im thinking i might have Vaginal Atrophy. As much as i hate doing this because i don't want to go down the hormone path, i started using vaginal estrogen. im new here and cant figure out how to use this forum properly but i have the shoulder blade pain which caused me to have neck surgery to get rid of it. And now that anxiety is UP UP UP, my pills are struggling to work. I am 49 so this is a (fairly) early age to already be postmeno, but Mom went thru it at 49 as well. plus some strange behavior where I'd look back and think, WHY did I do that? All the above symptoms I can relate to. I was convinced that I had interstitial cystitis, I googled everything I could for my symptoms and finally resigned myself to continuing my oral and vaginal estrogen, having acupuncture and trying to just put one foot in front of the other to get through the really horrible days. In case something happens so I'm near the hospital. Wishing better times for all of us, and I'm just really so happy to be here. My mom never mentioned it. I've done that too a few times. Upgrade to Patient Pro Medical Professional? I am a member of other menopausal chatrooms too. i too get muscle tremors around my body, hot flashes and twitches or zapping feeling or skin crawling and the bloating and vaginal flatulence at times. I-messages can vary in terms of how they are formed and utilized, and they don't necessarily need to begin with the words, "I feel." i am glad to say while they can still come, they are at least frequent. I certainly don't feel that now. Two different meds, for this, and neither one helped. You mentioned you had pressure. feeling scared and depressed..hope things will get better for everyone soon! kadija. My fault though i guess i should have googled "urinary problems in menopause" . so sick of the bloating, sickness and flatulence! Feeling statements are often used in therapy and many mental health professionals encourage their use in everyday communication. im learning that women especially watch other women for styles and although we do admire other women, it doesnt mean you are attracted to them. I was also so relieved to find this site and posts as have been experiencing the same symptoms, anxiety about health, aching joints, feeling sick in the morning, just found I have polyps, which has given some reassurance regarding irregular bleeding. I do have fibroids and IBS and am recovering from Covid too (mine was very gastric) so none of that helps me understand what's going on and why. I feel hungry but nauseated at the same time. Im nauseous but hungry. Changing how people communicate can improve relationships and help individuals feel understood. WHY did I say that? I feel such dread, especially in the morning. I hope this passes because it does totally drain the life out of you. my nausea was about once a month for over a year. For example, the speaker in the previous example might say, "I feel sad that I have to do this alone. it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. feel better and welcome to write anytime you like xoxo. I am having the same thing. It lasted for about 6 months and then new symptoms took over and the bladder issues went away. 2018;9(1):2474. doi:10.1038/s41467-018-04925-y, Rogers SL, Howieson J, Neame C. I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict. Skilled Interpersonal Communication: Research, Theory and Practice. I'm always making a drs appointment about something! I was OK with my single life. I am a believer in God/Jesus as well and He is my Saviour! im on HRT patch and anti depressant but i dont think this one is working so i may need to switch. My doctors say they fodt worry about my levels unless it was 3 times higher. I am sorry you are feeling this way too. Rather than leading with criticism, it focuses the conversation on how the speaker feels about it. Hope yours clears up soon, it gets you down doesn't it when you don't know what the problem is xxx. NO APPETITE either. Thank goodness for your reply. Research also suggests that this approach can be helpful when communicating with others: Some settings where I-messages are frequently utilized include: This technique is frequently used in couples therapy to help improve communication in romantic relationships. drinking ensure and weight gain powder blended mixes. When i had bloodwork again in August, 2019 i found out it was elevated. My prayers are with all of us. this seriously needs to stop. Half of what i see is so inaccurate. its all a mind game but one in which we might need help to get thru. Don't worry about your bladder it will go away eventually. I refused antibiotics for my Sibo because of some terrible side effects I had from antibiotics some years ago. Allergies are also annoying, coffee and oats for me and now I crave a cappuccino and porridge!! Perhaps her ideas were sought as well as the other persons and together they made a plan. with anyone else but it's like I told my doctor I felt like I had the flu and my throat just kept hurting off and on and was red , and they all chalked it up to post nasal drip , I asked if my hormones and menopause could be causing it told her I had read on this site that a lot of women were having the same issues she looked at me like I was stupid , and the rapid std test that shows results in 20 min was negative thank you Jesus , my sons are like mom you need to stop freaking out you've been checked you don't have anything but Google told me I was dying moreless and possibly had a horrible std even though my Dr's tell me if I did have I would be a lot sicker but this has all just suddenly hit me all at once within the last 6 months with the head aches and feeling moreless like flu symptoms and crap bundled all in one , I went to the er over it because my left under arm was hurting they did x-rays and said my lymph glands wasn't swelled and my blood work was fine , and I was like well why Is my throat red and why does it hurt but not hurt when I swallow and why is my armpit hurting and my upper chest off and on and why does my throat feel like it's going dry , simply it's allergies, pulled muscle , your fine just take musinex or a sinus med but here's the kicker since all of this started I'm having allergic reactions to a lot of stuff that I never had before , and my question is why does these doctors act like they've never heard of these symptoms with menopause well I'm apparently perimenopause, just turned 48 the 23 rd , so in short I wish someone would of kicked that snack in the ass and eve to for eating that stupid apple she cursed us all because she didn't listen to God's commandments , but I guess I cant be mad at her when I fell him daily to , I'm just so over all of this ughh , hope you feel better soon . 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